This week focus on the value of "a Good Attitude" in your child/grandchild.

Definition of Attitude: a complex mental state involving beliefs and feelings and values and dispositions to act in certain ways.

A few quotes from Charles Swindoll:
• We have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.
• Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill.
• Attitude keeps me going or cripples my progress. It alone fuels my fire or assaults my hope. When my attitudes are right, there is no barrier too high, no valley too deep, no dream too extreme, no challenge too great for me.”

(You can put your child's or grandchild's name in blank and make it personal.)

Father, I pray that ___________ will have an "attitude of gratitude".

I pray that ___________ will learn to give thanks in all things (1 Thessalonians 5:18 ...in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.)

May ______________ learn to do all things without grumbling and complaining (Philippians 2:14....Do all things without grumbling or disputing.)

I pray that ______________ will think on (learn to keep his/her mind dwelling on) whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good report, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things (Philippians 4:8).

May _____________ learn to bring every thought and make it obey Christ (2 Corinthians 10:4.....bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ).

(Reminder.....Philippians 4:9 The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things. As parents/grandparents, we need to teach and train through our own words and attitudes.)

Suggested exercise with children/grandchildren this week:
1) Ask your child every night this week to name at least 3 things for which they are grateful.
2) Participate with them by creating an "attitude" book by making it very special by decorating with arts and crafts. Draw or cut out pictures which illustrate those things.
3) Tell them that you will reward them with (you name it....possibly $ for each day that he/she doesn't grumble or complain). For the older ones, the art project probably won't work, but ask the Lord to give you creativity in how to apply to these truths.
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As I see people each week in counseling, attitude is a common thread with people who are struggling. Many times they don't understand that they get to choose their attitudes about people, places, and situations. I pray that our children/grandchildren will learn to have the attitude of Christ in all things whether it's with their teachers, school, homework, friends, classes, ballgames, brothers, sisters, etc. Their attitudes come from their thoughts, "Just what am I thinking about this?" When they make the statement, "I don't like....." most often it's coming from wrong or negative thinking. We can help them change his/her thoughts and think God's thoughts. For instance, change thoughts from "I have to do this" to "I get to do this". Do your children hear you say, "I have to cook dinner", or "I get to cook dinner"?

Generosity – giving your attention, time, abilities, money, and compassion freely to others

Rick Warren (author of Purpose Driven Life)…. From my own personal experience, I have grown more in my faith, I have grown closer to Jesus Christ, and my heart has been change more by learning to give by faith than any other discipline in my life.

This week focus on the character quality of generosity keeping in mind that giving is not just about monetary but others things such as time, abilities, and compassion. Make the prayer personal by putting your child's/grandchild's name in the blank.

Father, I pray that ________ will understand that a greater blessing comes when he/she gives rather than when he/she receives. Acts 20:35 It is more blessed to give than to receive.
I pray that _________ will choose to give to others and have a happy heart as he/she gives. 11 Corinthians 9:7 Every man according as he purposed in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loves a cheerful giver.
I pray that _________ will understand that sharing with others is God’s will for his/her life. Eph. 4:28 He who steals must steal no longer; but rather he must labor, performing with his own hands what is good, so that he will have something to share with one who has need.
Father, would You give ________ a gracious and giving heart toward the poor and those in need. Proverbs 19:17 One who is gracious to a poor man lends to the Lord and He will repay him for his good deed.
Give ________a generous and willing heart to share and know that he/she is laying up treasures in heaven. 1 Timothy 6:18 Let them do good, that they be rich in good works, ready to give, willing to share, storing up for themselves a good foundation for the time to come.
I pray that _______will understand that when he/she gives food, water, clothing, time, and compassion to others, that he/she has done this for Jesus. Matt. 25:34-40 Then the righteous will answer Him, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry, and feed You, or thirsty, and give You something to drink? ‘And when did we see You a stranger, and invite You in, or naked, and clothe You? ‘When did we see You sick, or in prison, and come to You?’ The King will answer and say to them, ‘Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me.’
I pray that when ________ shares with others, that he/she will know that this is pleasing God. Hebrews 13:16 and do not neglect doing good and sharing, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.
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Practical examples of learning to give:

A father recently implemented a system in their home where the children are given envelopes to help them to learn to give and manage money. When they receive money, they are to put the 1st 10% in the envelope for giving, the 2nd 10% for saving, and the rest for spending. Great idea!

Katie came to me after the Easter hunt on Saturday and pointing to her basket said, Grandie, look, I have too many eggs. I need to give some to the younger kids. She found Trace whose basket was not full and hid her eggs for him to find. I thank God for her generous heart and communicated that to her.

Years ago, a financial advisor asked Rick & me, Why do you want to make more money? Rick responded with a question, Why do you want to make more money? Without hesitancy, he answered, “In order to give more.”